You can read my first blog about emerging women live here.
On the second night of the conference I had to try one of San-Francisco’s famed Ghirardelli chocolate and ice-cream houses. You can see it was very healthy…
Day two started with Promise Phelon of TapInfluence who talked about how she is building an ownership culture in her business. Promise was a powerhouse of energy and the think that stuck with me most was when she said about running a business and working with staff
She talked about honesty with your staff but also talking about and looking at what is going well and leveraging that.
Carrie Schwab Pomerantz
Next was Carrie of Charles Schwab who talked about mindful spending. It reminded me that the simple fundamentals have stayed true over the 15 years or so I have been in the working world and she encouraged us to start an emergency fund with 3-6 months worth of living and/or business expenses.
Panel: Women, Power and Money – Owning your financial future
One of the most interesting parts of this panel was each woman talking about what lessons and beliefs she inherited or learnt about money growing up. One thought that came out of this discussion was invest vs. bet – investing being a 50+ plus chance of success verses betting a 49% or less chance of success.
I’ve reinvested into my company heavily over the last few years and am (I believe) at a stage to consolidate a reap the rewards of that investment but it made me think about whether I have been investing or betting on my success.
And a very powerful quote was referenced from someone whose name I sadly missed was:“We’ll never solve the feminisation of power until we solve the masculisation of wealth” - Unknown. Click To Tweet
Next up was Elle Luna talking about the crossroads of should and must. Should being what you feel you should be and must following your true purpose. This spoke to me having recently released a program that for me was delivered in a “must” way despite all the voices of how I “should” create and market it.
I had no expectations apart from having purchased her book the night before and being impressed by the illustrations. Well Elle Luna’s presentation was truly an art form with amazing slides that were art in themselves and powerful story telling from Elle. She told about a series of dreams and the journey she has been on but even just listening to her voice and seeing her move was soothing and peaceful.
She told us about a friend who asked her after one dream “have you ever tried to find your dreams in real life?”. It seemed like a pertinent question for all of us!
Next was Tara Mohr author of the book Playing Big. Tara spoke about how to bring the concepts of playing big into the role of the carer – of an elderly parent, a sick relative or even our children.
She spoke up breaking through the should, the cultural norms and what is expected of us and being brave enough to do it our way and be true to ourselves.
She drew parallels with a classic parenting book with advice that we would now think preposterous but that many people would have followed even if it didn’t feel right and true.
Next up was Tosha Silver who again I vaguely knew of but had never read any of her work or followed her. Her talk was about outrageous openness and letting the divine take the lead.
This talk resonated so strongly for me as I have seen myself, and so many friends and clients , struggle through 2016 and end it wanting to give up, quit or believe that they must be on the wrong track.
She talked about letting the divine take the lead by asking “show me what the hell you want”. But she also talked about this not being a passive action.
We may at times offer up ourselves to the divine to take the lead but when the time comes we must act decisively.
She made this comment “your dreams are really limited”. Now, on its own, this could seem like a really strange comment. But what she was saying was that when we are lost, when we are in the dark night of our soul or even when we just don’t feel clear – offer it up to the divine – because in doing so things that we can’t even conceive of right now – can happen. Our dreams for ourselves are very limited compared to what the universe may serve up.Your dreams are really limited - Tosha Silver Click To Tweet
She talked about outstretching our arms to the divine/universe/god/the goddess and saying “this is now yours, show me what you will”. Ultimately you get out of the friggin way and hand it over to something bigger than you.
I don’t know about you but this actually feels like a relief to me – to hand it over – and see what will be revealed.
Tosha Silver close up
Next up I chose to attend Tosha’s workshop because I had been so inspired by her talk. She spoke about what a “shitstorm” of a year 2016 has been for so many people. She spoke of how it has been a year forcing us to surrender and let go and for those of us who fought this, well, it was even harder.
She spoke about 2016 being a universal ‘9’ year in numerology and said just look at “Brangelina”! She said the leaves are getting shaken off the trees – everything that we don’t need to take into the next 9 year cycle is being left behind.
She spoke about 2016 bringing people to their knees. Have you felt it? I have!
This is something I am aware of and speak to my clients about as 2016 has an energy of endings not big expansive beginning (that’s next year – bring on 2017!).
We talked for a while about how to trust when offering ourselves up. How to trust the messages – how to know we interpreted them correctly. She encouraged us to check the messages for clarity. Invite intimacy with the divine. To say “stop me if this is not right”. To take small steps at first to make sure the divine rises up to meet you. To ask for more evidence e.g. send me a sign.
We talked about planning vs. openness and being open and flexible to the divine – not being so ridged we stick to our plans despite all signs and nudges to the contrary.
She made this comment that was oh so true:“Life will show you but then everyone else will confuse you”. Click To Tweet
So after this session, I promptly went and purchased her book because a lot of what she discussed I am already talking to my 1:1 clients about and building into my new program Launch Mastery in terms of surrender and trust.
Lunch Power Circles
Funnily enough, when I arrived in San-Francisco I said to the divine. I’m not sure I’m on the right path right now. Please send me 3 signs this week. That’s as specific as I got.
Today after an interesting conversation during a power circle around allowing support and the possibility of investment in my business I was featured in an article about the top 50 female entrepreneurs to watch in 2017 and it talked about how we were beating the traditional way of needing funding and investors and creating our own wealth through online programs! Well damn, that felt like a sign!
It made me realise that I’ve fought so hard for my freedom. To be autonomous. To live my creativity and follow my “MUST” that while investment can sometimes feel like a quicker (but not easier!) path to success that it is NOT for me. My highest value is my own freedom and autonomy in my business.
The next workshop I went to was with Bethany Webster about Healing the Mother Wound.
My Reiki healer advised me recently that as part of the feminine emerging in my life that this often requires dealing with the mother wounds so I thought this was apt.
I’ve also had some pretty massive shifts going on within my own immediate family (parents and siblings) and wounds that have flared up over the last few years and generational wounds that I have had to unshackle myself from.
We often would associate a workshop like this with being disloyal to our mother but what I loved about Bethany was that she speaks about this taboo subject with compassion and love.“show gratitude for what they could give and compassion for what they couldn’t”. - Bethany Webster Click To Tweet
Healing the mother wound is ultimately about giving ourselves what (for whatever reason) our mothers couldn’t.
She encouraged us to explore the beliefs we have inherited or had imposed on us by our mothers, to identify the ‘mother gap’ (what we most wanted for them), to give up the impossible dream that they will meet these, to grieve for this and then to mother the inner child in the way that we most needed.
We were asked “how can I mother myself” right now?
Afternoon and evening sessions
Day two was phenomenal but I found that by 5pm I just did not have the stamina to go through for the last couple of hours. I was still battling jetlag and I made a decision to practice some self-care and have a nap at this point! My inner introvert was needing some quiet so I went back to my room for a nap and a quiet evening however if you are interested I missed:
- Joan Barnes the founder of Gymboree
- A panel on Women Entrepreneurs and
- Glennon Doyle Melton, author of love warrior ( I was told not to miss her but sometimes you just have to put your self-care first!)
I would have loved to attend these sessions but given we still had another day and a half I decided it was time to fill up (my jet-lagged self’s) cup rather than worrying about what I would miss.
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