I wrote this final installment in Auckland airport waiting for my final connection home.
Let’s just call day 3 the day of tears.
My tears, presenters tears and the whole damn audiences tears.
When Chantal said something along the lines of this is the “heart” day…I had no idea just how wide open my heart chakra would go…but then it has been the year of the heart chakra for me doing Reiki 1 initiation and I think there is still a lot of integrating to come.
Sukhraj Kaur Gipple
First up we had a talk about awakening the nerve of the soul from a Kundalini Yogi Sukhraj Kaur Gipple.
She talked about how society wants us to live in the lower chakras of Base (security, money, shelter), Sacral (sex) and Solar Plexus (power) but that what we really need to do is awaken the upper chakras of heart, throat, third eye and crown.
She spoke about through the course of our lives awakening more and more but how the journey from the pinkie to the thumb (or the navel to the heart) is the hardest journey of all.
She spoke about true prosperity coming from giving and being of service and recited a quote from Yogi Bhajan:“What happens to one woman happens to all women of the world”. - Yogi Bhajan Click To Tweet
This really was a call to action of sisterhood and set the tone for what was to come.
Next up was a truly soul stirring talk. Lucy Wallace talked about her initiative Dance 2B Free where she and her colleague go into prisons and teach incarcerated women how to express themselves and process their feelings through dance.
She also teaches some of these women to become qualified dance instructors to give them a skill when they leave prison.
She called it
“cathartic choreography set to emotional music”
She also quoted one of her students who said “you treat us as women not as criminals”.
There was not a dry eye in the room as we watched the video of these women dancing and expressing themselves and taking leadership of the classes.
Lucy ended the talk stating “this could be me, or you or any of us” and told a story of a DUI charge and how it haunted her that it could have been so much worse if she had hurt someone that night.
I was so moved by this talk and presentation and am seriously looking at supporting this initiative through my business in 2017.
Next up was Jensine Larsen talking about how to head the call to connect with your global sisters.
She told us her story of establishing World Pulse a network of 50k women in 190 countries all of the world but particularly in non-western countries.
She spoke about all the reasons why women in the western world may resist this type of connection and all the myths surrounding what may happen but stated that these women just want us to stop turning out back on them and to instead connect in a meaningful way and which can be in just a couple of minutes a day or week.
Next up was Stella Paul, a member of World Pulse and an indian woman with an exceptional story and an extremely moving message of connection .
Stella is heading up a new initiative by World Pulse called the ‘Change Fund” to contribute to the initiatives supporting women to prosper around the world. Part of the funding goes towards a program comprised of Impact Leaders—highly impactful women who have gone through a rigorous vetting and training process with World Pulse and are leading projects to empower women on the ground all over the world. As a group, these women will receive $20,000 of direct financial support to their projects, in addition to specialized training and mentoring via the program.
This is another program I am looking at supporting when I allocate my donations for 2017.
You can find out more here: https://nc.worldpulse.com/emerging-women
Marianne Williamson closed the conference in an epic 2 hour session. I’m going to be totally honest – I knew of her, I’ve seen her books but I did not follow her and have not (yet) ready any of her books or seen her speak live or even online so her message was brand new to me.
This might surprise you but I’ll be honest I don’t have gurus. I don’t subscribe to many newsletters or ardently follow many social media channels or blogs (apart from my obsession with Violet Gray Jewellery Lemon Canary Candles and Oracle Cards!).
Marianne was quite political, not surprising at this stage of the presidential race in the US and not unlike many other speakers. In a country where it is not mandatory to vote (unlike Australia) I can respect the need and desire to call women to action because women being a majority of the US population have the potential to swing the vote.
That said I know so little about the candidates and the political situation being mostly insulated from it living in Australia that I won’t make comment other than to say I felt I learnt a lot about what is facing women in the USA and by default the rest of the world given the US is still a super power.
I want to write about what resonated for me during this 2 hour segment.
Marianne’s talk was intense, rapid and passionate and it would be impossible to take in everything she said so I am merely recounting aspects that struck a chord with me. You will find a heap of quotes because damn this woman is quotable!
She talked about being impregnated with ideas and letting them flow through you in the same way we let a baby grow in us. We don’t (generally) have to work hard to grow a baby – the body just does its work the same way ideas can impregnate, seed and blossom if we let the divine flow through us.
She talked about ‘angels pushing you from behind’ when it comes to your ideas and work.
She talked about being a vessel for ideas and actions to flow through you and that‘The being precedes the doing’ - Marianne Williamson Click To Tweet
She talked about goddess energy being ‘fierce’ and as women needing to embrace and embody our fierce energy to protect what is important to us. And she stated ‘fierce is not angry’ as the patriarchal society has conditioned us to be portrayed.
She talked about depression and anxiety being our internal warning system and there being a normal spectrum of despair when things are hard. She said being in your 20s is HARD (CUE laughter) and losing someone is hard but not necessarilly depression.
She spoke about the over-prescribing of medications to numb and suppress women’s voices as a patriarchal force. This was an interesting concept as I had not really considered it before but thankfully she also stated that she knows that mental health issues are real and there are real reasons people need medication. Coming from a family that has mental health issues spanning back at least four generations I was glad this was made clear.
Marianne is fierce and she is a political activist (having run for office in the past I believe) and she said:“If it is wrong – it is intolerable”. - Marianne Williamson Click To Tweet
When talking about issues that we feel may not directly affect us she said “everything that is a public issue will get to your door”.
She also said:“You have to uphold the light, otherwise the dark will set in”. - Marianne Williamson Click To Tweet
In response to a question about how to send love even to people we feel so angry at e.g. Donald Trump she said “sometimes love says no”. I loved this for it’s simplicity. The spiritual path is not about being a doormat – you can be a loving force whilst still saying no that’s not OK the same way a mother sets boundaries for her child.Sometimes love says no - Marianne Williamson Click To Tweet
She then spoke about femininity giving birth to what could be. Being feminine is saying yes to what is possible.
She said “every child is one of our children” as a call to action to take action against what we find intolerable not just for our children but for all children and those to come. She repeated multiple times that the feminine is not born to be silent when our children are threatened.
A quote that I loved was “ we need to do more than give birth to new children – we need to give birth to new wisdom” and “the divine feminine is the mother of the next generation”.
I also loved her short but sweet statement“We suffer and then we rise” - Marianne Williamson Click To Tweet
She also talked about morning rituals and making space in your day for meditation even as a busy mum. She encouraged the mothers of young children to involve their children in this meditation time even if it is just ‘quiet time’. She said that in the morning we are most open to new ideas and that if we don’t meditate (even just for a few moments) we are bringing yesterday’s stresses into the world.
A final quote I took from her was “you don’t need to struggle to make it happen, you need to allow it to happen”.
Marianne’s talk was political, fervent and impassioned . She is a supreme public speaker and many times we were brought to standing applause. I feel able to deeply respect this passion without necessarily agreeing with everything she said and this I think is true sisterhood.
And then it was over.
The conference was closed. There was emotion bursting out of the room. I felt vulnerable, triggered and empowered all at the same time.
I went to hug my gorgeous client and her best friend whom I’d spent much of the conference with and burst into uncontrollable tears. My first extreme emotion for the entire conference.
Perhaps it was a release of all the intense energy of meeting such amazing women, game changers, visionaries, fierce goddesses, powerhouses and women ‘between successes’.
I’m at a place in my life, probably because it is a universal 9 year and also a personal 9 year (in numerology) to finally grow up.
To stand up as a fierce adult goddess and claim my power.
To claim my right for emotional safety at all times and to protect my daughters like a fierce lioness.
This doesn’t mean screaming, yelling, name-calling or causing further hurt, in fact, it means the opposite.
Respectfully setting boundaries within my entire family, catalysing change for the better for the generations to come in a feminine way that is powerful yet respectful and passionate yet non-threatening and that takes ownership yet also says enough is enough.
That to me is the feminine way and that to me is what emerging women gave me.
Sometimes love says no.
I left the conference feeling like I’d had a life changing experience but happy to get home to my husband and kids.
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